American Friends

(Borrowed from a friend – with permission; expresses my thoughts perfectly.)

First, know this. You are my friend because I think you are wonderful.
There is a certain breed of woman I am drawn to in my friends and you are her.
They are intelligent because I have no patience for the stupid.
They are colourful because grey women bore me.
They are strong and almost all carry the scars of life on their souls because those make for the most interesting people.
They have and do make mistakes because they are so very human and I do so love a person with humanity.
But more than anything, they are kind and loving and compassionate because I am drawn to light, not darkness.

What they are not, are absolute Republicans or absolute Democrats. They are not necessarily “right” or “left”
Some voted for McCain, some for Obama. Some voted Independent. Some, as we all do, have their prejudices and bias. Some are Christian, some are other things, some are nothing on the spectrum of Spirituality.
Some love their guns and believe in their right to own a gun.
Some are right to lifers and some pro-choice.

Sometimes we disagree with our philosophies and policies but I have always respected their right to an opinion as they do mine.
Sometimes cross words have reached over the internet because we are passionate and strong in our beliefs but in the light of a new day we all recognize; this journey is more interesting with each other along for the ride.

I see what you are enduring right now.
I see the comments on your pages.
I see you getting kicked in the teeth by your own countrymen, your own government, sometimes even by your own family.
I see your helmets on, your battle shields raised, your sword lifted.
I know you and I know what this is doing to you, but you don’t stop, you don’t give up, you refuse to hide from it, and I admire you. So much.

Know this!!
You do not need to be friends with bigots and racists and homophobes.
There is no law in humanity which says you must be that tolerant. There is no rule which says you need to accept or listen to the opinions of all. They may have a right to say it but there are consequences and losing YOU is a terrible and just consequence.

Also remember this. Democracy; the countries we so enjoy. The nations where others flock to, dream of, wish to belong to do not just happen by accident or mistake.
Democracy is hard won, hard-earned and must be constantly fought for.
Carry on my wayward son. You are light.

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Elder Abuse; it is our problem

Socio-economic status is, quite obviously, not protection from elder abuse.

Our social fabric is seeing the impact of the Baby Boomers on our economy, our healthcare and sadly, the incidents of the inexcusable abuse of these individuals, as they enter their “golden” years.

Society is judged by its treatment of its most vulnerable and as a society, we are failing.

There are so many facets to the problems of dealing with an aging population but there is one thing, that we can all offer, and it costs us nothing but grants so many rewards. Time.

Just time.

  1. Time as a gift to a family caregiver; allowing them to take a day, a night or if possible, a weekend away from the responsibility of caring for an elder relative.
  2. Time spent at the care facility, if the relative has been placed in such an environment.
  3. Time spent talking to doctors/nurses/aides in charge of the elder’s care.
  4. Time spent talking with the elder relative or friend; listening to their concerns.
  5. Time spent watching the interaction between staff and your relative/friend.
  6. Time spent by taking the relative/friend out for a walk, even if it just around a facility’s grounds.
  7. Time spent discussing medical care with doctors/nurses and aides, ensuring that our elder relative/friend understands their treatment and options.
  8. Time spent preparing a special meal or a morning coffee/tea to share.
  9. Time spent ensuring that all our relative/friend’s financial dealings are above board.
  10. Time spent to stave off loneliness, ensuring our relative or friend knows that he/she has not been forgotten.

Following the passing of my father; it became clear that living alone, in the family home was not in my mother’s best interest. Mom, my husband and myself decided that the best option was for her to move in with us. My husband and my sons constructed an in-law suite for her, complete with her own kitchenette, a separate bedroom and bath/laundry room. She would have her privacy and we would have ours. In all honesty, it also provided me with a way to ensure she was taking her medications/eating properly.

This was a huge adjustment for all of us but, I will never regret the decision. I was able to be there for my mother, as she was for me and believe me..I was not the easiest child with whom to deal. My memories of the 3 years Mom lived with us, are wonderful, coming home from work and seeing her. Sharing our ups and downs; trying to help her with the monumental grief of losing my Dad, they had been married for 60 years when he passed away.

Caring for an elder relative/friend, allowing them to feel needed, loved doesn’t take much. Just some of your time. It really is such a small thing but means so much. Time can help to prevent abuse, depression and loneliness. Time will create memories that we can hold in our hearts, long after we have to say good-bye to our loved one. Time costs us nothing to give but the pay back in priceless.

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Canada Revenue Agency – They DON’T make housecalls.

(Examples of fraudulent communications – text and e-mails)

The Canada Revenue Agency or the provincial revenue agencies, DO NOT show up at your house. They simply DO NOT. These are scammers. They are not government agencies; they are dirtbags in call centers, looking to relieve you of your cash. Let me repeat; the CRA DOES NOT SHOW UP AT YOUR HOME. If someone making this claim does come to your home, call the police immediately. Note their physical description, the vehicle they are driving, and if safe to do so, the license plate #.

Although it may seem obvious to most of us; they don’t as for cash/gift cards as payment.

The procedures are nationwide and do not deviate; if you really own the government money, they will contact you via regular old snail mail. You’ll be provided with a file number and a contact name/number. If you call, they will ask you specific information regarding your identity. To be completely sure that this is the government, use the phone numbers found on the actual government web site or in the telephone book.

Please talk to neighbours who may be vulnerable – elderly neighbours, recent immigrants and refugees. Encourage them to report the scams.

When you back trace the numbers and ask the providers – Rogers seems to be a popular one; they are notable unresponsive. Go to the RCMP Fraud site and register a formal complaint.


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Stop Listening to Rhetoric or How to Not Be a Victim

Stop. Just stop listening to feminist and gay rhetoric regarding our right to safely walk at night, enjoy a night out. It is garbage. It is dangerous garbage. Telling little boys to treat women and members of the gay community with respect, is not going to change a thing.  There are predators out there and a picket sign, a Slut Walk, is not going to alter this simple fact.

We may believe we have the right to safety, but predators take full advantage of that belief. How many times do you see people out, alone, for an evening walk, a run, wearing ear buds? Unable to hear if anyone is behind them; looking ahead, unaware if someone is hiding in the vicinity, unaware that a vehicle is following them.

Take a look at these guys, a good look; none of them “look like” monsters but they are among the worst of the worst.

Abduction, torture, rape, mutilation and murder.

This applies to boys and men as well; be aware of your surroundings. Never leave an area without sending a message to someone. Make sure your locating apps are running on your cell.

The photos, below, are of predators who preyed on boys and men; Gacy, Dahmer, MacArthur, Magnotta.

Torture, rape and murder are not a gender issue.

They all look like the folks in our neighbourhood.

Psychopaths do not look different, they don’t “act” differently, they are, virtually, unidentifiable from you or me.

Sometimes, two psychopaths meet and the result is devastating for all of us, as in the above – Bernardo and Homolka (aka Teal) and the Wests.

There is no 100% protection from these monsters but there are ways to lessen their opportunities;

  1. Never leave your food or drink unattended. NEVER. If you get up to go to the washroom, to dance, to grab a smoke outside, take your drink or order a fresh one, on your return.
  2. If you are walking the dog, running or on your way to the store – do not wear ear buds. Be aware of your surroundings, 360 deg. Aware.
  3. Always note vehicles in your vicinity. If you get a tingle in your Spidey sense? Cross the street, walk in the opposite direction; go into local business, call someone. Get out of the area, quickly.
  4. When you get in your car, lock the doors, IMMEDIATELY. Don’t open your damn window if someone taps on it. Never get out of your car, at the request of a stranger. No, you didn’t drop $20 bucks. If your tire is flat? Use your cell phone, from inside your car, to call someone. Another ruse is to tell you that your car is leaking a fluid; great – turn your car on and drive to the nearest service station to have it verified.
  5. Don’t let strangers in your house; for any reason. If the cable, gas or power company has an issue? Make sure your door is locked and call the company. Do not allow “city employees” in your home. Make sure your door is locked and call the city. If you are alone, tell whoever is at your door, from behind your locked door, to come back. Ensure someone else is in your home for the next visit.
  6. Someone lose a pet or child? Call the police in the case of a child and animal control, in the case of a pet and get away from that individual.
  7. Tell your kids; adults DO NOT ask children for direction or for help.  They just don’t.  Tell them to run to the nearest house and ask for assistance.

Bottomline; always be aware of danger. Always be aware of your surroundings. Never allow yourself to be alone with someone you do not know or do not know well. Note vehicles in your area.

Carry a weapon, one that is easily accessible. My favourite is pepper spray. It is illegal. I don’t care. That pepper spray, probably, saved me from rape or worse, one night. Ask yourself, if someone attempts to assault you? What are the odds that they will go to the police to press charges?

Anecdote: I was walking home, a very residential neighbourhood, the whole white picket fence thing, from a local, neighbourhood pub. It was late, I was alone and I had high heels – those shoes make you easy pickings, by the way, running is not an option. I was not wearing earbuds, or earphones. I heard a vehicle behind me; it had stopped. I heard a door open and the next thing I knew I was being grabbed from behind.

I always keep my pepper spray, in my hand, when I’m out and alone. Always. The law be damned. If I am charged, then that means, I avoided an assault or worse. I’ll take the charges, thanks.

I managed to spray the guy. He dropped like a stone, I took my shoes off and ran like the devil.

Want a peek into the minds of psychos? He had a partner, in the vehicle; the partner yelled as I was running away, “What did the bitch do?”

So, I was to be assaulted, protected myself and I’m the bitch.

I got away. I was lucky, and I was aware of my surroundings.

Don’t be a victim. Be aware. Trust no one. This is your life, you are protecting.

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What a stupid, stupid thing to write

I used to follow this blog, until this sickening piece; there is no coming back from this kind of ignorance.

How thick do you have to be to make such horrendous suppositions and just downright ignorant comments? Kate Spade didn’t suffer from depression? Really? Had access to her medical file, did you? Knew her on a personal level perhaps? No? Ah, so another armchair physician.

Apparently, Mrs. Spade did, in fact, suffer from depression and had been suffering for years but why let facts get in the way of a great superiority rant, right?

The opinions expressed in “Clarissa’s Blog” are, unfortunately, all too prevalent. People with healthy psyches do not commit suicide. Depression is an illness. Severe depression is an illness that ruins and takes lives. It is this “holier than thou” attitude that has created the mental illness crisis facing our nations. There is little to no funding, little to no support and people are dying.

But don’t let facts get in the way of an opinion.

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Had a Samsung phone – lasted about a year before it started to act up; not abused, not overuse – just standard keeping in touch with the hubby and kids. No one borrowed it and I didn’t drop it in water/on concrete or any other “abuse”. Okay, sucked it up – these things happen.

Bought a BluRay – Samsung; it lasted less than a year before it stopped ejecting DVD’s and starting acting up. Okay, not happy but again…s*it happens. Tossed it and bought an LG (works fab, by the way).

Now…I don’t know if I have to be hit by a brick before a lesson is learned or if I fell under the spell of “sparkly-shiney new”; we bought, at quite a price tag, by the way – a top loading washer/dryer combo.

Noticed clothes weren’t being cleaned properly; assigned it to a learning curve for the machine, it is HE. Went back and re-read the instructions (yes…I am one of THOSE people and do read instructions); I was doing everything according to the book. Then a recall was announced; the machine was…essentially, blowing up when the Heavy Duty setting was used. Awesome. Samsung was offering in-home service or a ridiculously low rebate on another Samsung washer. I chose the in-home service; at this point, there was NO way I was going to buy another Samsung washing machine, paltry rebate or not.

Well, roll the clock ahead a couple of years; things haven’t changed. Fortunately, we do have a second washer/dryer combo and this one does work, although it is only a fraction of the load capacity. In case anyone feels that I am exaggerating – I welcome you to Google “Samsung appliance complaints”. There are thousands. Even their own Facebook page is inundated with angry customers – spread this far and wide; DO NOT BUY SAMSUNG PRODUCTS. For some reason, their quality has plummeted and their regard for their customers is non-existent.

Here is some evidence and if you need more…I have laundry baskets FULL of evidence.

This picture is of a Shark floor pad, after I washed it in the Samsung – on Heavy Duty. AFTER, I washed it. The dirt is simply that – dirt. Backyard mud. That’s it – no grease, no blood, no fruit juice, coffee or alcohol – just backyard mud. It is the same thing, over and over again. This is a piece of garbage. A very expensive piece of garbage. DO NOT BUY SAMSUNG APPLIANCES!!! Or electronics…check out the plethora of complaints on those as well.

This is the piece of crap, responsible:

And this is the piece of crap’s model number:

For your reference – only 3 examples – feel free to surf, on your own.  Samsung should be avoided, at all costs and believe me…if you decide on Samsung…it will cost you.


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Personal Essay on Standing Committee and Systemic Racism

Yes, I have read the document, in its entirety…it left me gobsmacked. What an insane waste of taxpayer money, in addition to being ill-advised. You cannot legislate thought. You cannot legislate opinion. You certainly can’t do it without consulting with the people on the ground – you know, the folks paying for this tripe.

Let’s take hiring, for example; hiring based on gender, race, religion, age or sexual orientation, in order to fill a quota is…the very same discriminatory practice that this (cough, cough) “standing committee” sees as their raison d’être. Hiring on merit is the only way to ensure business/public service stays strong and viable. Anything less is nonsense.

Let’s turn this around, shall we? What about the Muslim “Brotherhood” – it is discriminatory by virtue of its name. How many women are on their ruling board? Can’t have it both ways – either we are inclusive and refuse to accept discrimination or we are not.

What of the Hasidim? The men within the community are not permitted to speak to women; this too, discriminatory.

The Catholic Church – how many women are elected, promoted to roles within the archdiocese as bishops…archbishops…priests? Answer: None.

Jehovah Witness – there’s a whole organization based on discriminatory practices.

Let’s look at the popular music blasted out of car windows, sound systems throughout the country; referencing women as “ho’s” – “bitches”. Very discriminatory toward women. Shall we prosecute the song writers? Call them out for public humiliation?

Discrimination exists within our society and if we want to wipe it out? Then fine, but it has to be a constant.

A large step toward ending discrimination would be to end “special privilege” for religion, race, gender and ethnicity. A good number of our problems, as a society, is based on religion. Stop discrimination, then start treating religions as you would any large corporation – begin by taxing them. No more special privilege based on the belief in some imaginary father/mother figure in the sky or wherever. Fairy tales are for children and have no place in government or business.

What you believe is your own business and as such, keep it to yourself. Keep it in your churches/mosques/synagogues/temples. No and I mean NO special privileges based on religious preference. Want a public service? Then remove the face covering, no choosing the gender of a professional based on your fairy tales. No more public money going to a religious organization – municipal tax dollars, for example, used for snow plowing a church parking lot. Get your parishioners out there, with shovels or snow blowers.

No more referring to Caucasians as “whitey” – “honky” – “redneck” or racist based on skin colour. No more trying to throw shadows on what the various European cultures have done in this country.

If one can take pride in their non-European background, so too, can Europeans. Anything less is discriminatory and against the aforementioned “standing committee’s” own recommendations.

I don’t care what fairy tale rocks your boat, I don’t care where your family began, I don’t care who you love, I don’t care if you don’t sunburn in the summer; if you have a sense of personal responsibility, if you have a backbone and if you don’t walk around with your hand out or wear a mantle of victimhood then, to me, you are Canadian and I don’t need a “standing committee” to tell me.

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Prime Minister No-No

Never, in my life, have I regretted a vote…until now. This guy is an idiot and by believing his bullshit, I’m an idiot as well. The difference between the two of us is, I have learned from my mistake and there isn’t a snowflake’s chance, in hell, that I will vote Liberal, next election. I checked to see who supported the M-103 motion, a useless waste of government time and money, and what did I find? All the Liberals had their spines removed when Mr. Sunny Ways took office.

M-103 could have been used to strengthen our freedoms by re-wording and improving the context but noooo, that would have required thought and consideration. It would have required “a set” and apparently, there isn’t a functioning “set” within the entire Liberal party.

Religion must be struck from government, it is, essential, in light of our diversity, that no religion be given special privilege over rules of law. I don’t care if it is Christian, Jewish, Muslim or freaking Church of the Flying Spaghetti Monster. And yes, I believe the cross should be removed from the Québec legislature and replaced with something that is representative of our collective history – a wood carving of voyageurs, perhaps greeting Aboriginals but NO crucifix.

The church didn’t found our province, in fact, it operated to our detriment, as a society, for centuries. We should learn from how we were subjugated and not welcome attempts to repeat religion taking precedence over law.

I hate religion – I hate all religions. I see no benefit aside from assuaging fears and instilling a false sense of superiority to followers. It enriches the few, while enslaving the many.

I am not Islamaphobic, I am not an anti-Semite nor do I mistrust people from other countries. I am completely against any proposed change to accommodate religion. We have our laws; if those laws are not to someone’s liking? Well, that really is too bad. Perhaps Canada is not the place for them. I have no qualms about welcoming a hijab, a yarmulke, a dastaar/pagṛi anymore than I have qualms about people who pierce, tattoo or brand – that’s a personal choice and does not impact on Canadian society. The burqa and its sisters, however, are a completely different thing; it portrays an insulting message to men, regarding their inability to control themselves, sexually. It hides the identity of a Canadian. It is an insult to our society which promotes gender equality. No one has the right to demand to be served by a specific gender. No one has the right to shroud their identity when demanding a public service, paid for by Canadians. We ask, only, that people respect our culture and our rules. Bottom line – we didn’t force anyone to come to our country; they came of their own volition.

I welcome true refugees but with caution; without correct vetting, Canadian – all Canadians, are placed in potential danger. How many war criminals have been found within our borders? How many violators of human rights have made it into our society? It isn’t about religion, it isn’t about global regions – we have, operating members of the Bratva in our country, we have Asian Triads, Middle Eastern gangsters; we import gang members because, apparently, we don’t have enough of our own homegrown ones.

We all have to assume that there are some pretty handsome pay-offs in our Immigration departments.

I will always fight, in whatever way I can, for freedom. Canada has freedom firmly entrenched in its culture but that freedom is under attack and unless we start standing up to special interest groups and bring that idiot in Ottawa to heel, our freedom is threatened. You are, absolutely, entitled to your religion, to your culture however, you are not entitled to force your cultural beliefs on Canadian society.

I don’t blame the special interest groups – they follow the money, they follow their agenda; I blame the government for not having the backbone to stand up for our present culture. Freedom of religion also means freedom from religion. Keep it at home. Keep it in your churches, your temples, your mosques, your various houses of worship; it has no place in our rules of law, it has no place in our public services, whether healthcare or riding a bus. You want the privileges we have created and funded? Then, take responsibility and understand the country, you chose to adopt. The country didn’t choose you. Understand this fundamental difference and we’ll all get along, just fine.

Oh and Prime Minister No-No? You didn’t even have the balls to call La Meute a pack of dogs…you alluded…you played to the Muslim audience, knowing full well, the implication regarding dogs and Islam. You chose to ignore Canadians, yet again; dogs, in our culture, are viewed as beloved family members, loyal and protecting. Perhaps you can learn something from that.

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We All Need a Good Dose of “Grow The F… Up”

Every so often, the nonsense, caterwauling, whining and general toddler behaviour, on the most incredible educational opportunity – the internet, drives me to despair. Sometimes, it gets bad enough, that I suspend my FB account, disregard Twitter and withdraw from social media.

When I feel like my world is turning into a melting pot of inanity, I tune out. It is at that point. When I look around, beyond freaking Facebook and Twitter, I see real tragedy. I see real obstacles and challenges – then I go to check in with FB….and I’m inundated with narcissistic First World bullshit.

I can only imagine how disgusted our ancestors must be.

Yeah, life’s a bitch but it is relative to where you live, isn’t it? The concept of actually being grateful for everything around us, in the privileged Western World is, apparently, too difficult, for the vast majority, to ponder. It seems to be almost painful, this thinking process thing.

Feelings have become more important than deeds. Everyone’s feelings are hurt. What are we? A society of 2-year-olds? Look, not everyone is going to like you. Not everyone gives a rat’s ass about your feelings, in fact, I would hazard a guess and say that 99.99999% of this world doesn’t care how you feel, a good lot of them are too busy trying to find food and water…avoid being blown up or getting shot but hey, your feelings are hurt. Let’s see…can I find a tear for you? Nope…sorry. Nothing.

Put your f*cking cell phone down – the world does not need or even want another “Selfie” or pic of your dinner choice. Go to a news site, in another country and see what they face, daily. Stay away from FOX, CNN; BBC is a pretty easy beginning, move on to Al-Jazeera, try an Israeli site – African and Indian news sites. Get yourself some perspective. How many “Likes” or online “Friends” you garner isn’t worth a damn.

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No more refugees until our house is cleaned

Hey St-Justin-de-Selfie; take a look at this. It is a tax return from 2010, the year this man died, in his eighties, after working his entire life to help build this country and our social network systems. Imagine trying to live on this. He couldn’t. He couldn’t afford a dentist and so his teeth rotted. He lived in his house, paid his mortgage, and all his taxes but at the end of his life? This is what he was left to survive on – gross – 16 071.00 for a year. This isn’t an internet hoax meme. This is the reality faced by our elderly – our Canadian tax paying, citizens.

You want to open our doors to refugees, give them more disposable income than our own seniors? You are an embarrassment. You are shameful. Put your damn cell phone away and look at what is happening in this country.

Before anymore refugees be permitted into our country, your plan needs to be torn up and thrown in the trash. No more free dental, free medical or free medicine when our own citizens have to decide whether food, medicine or shelter are decisions requiring prioritization. No trailers or opening facilities for them when we have people living on the streets. No more  taxpayer money when the public has to sponsor Christmas funds and food banks.

Clean up our own house first, then come up with an equitable plan for both Canada and any potential refugees. Refugees need to be aware that they are entering a country with its own culture, by all means add to it but don’t try to force foreign cultural norms on the citizens. Refugees need to repay any money given to them, once they have been accepted. A time limit on how long they can stay here without being employed. No more appeal processes that go on for years.

Close the borders until you clean up the mess we already have, on our table; put your priorities in order – look after the people who have already done their part of this country. Enable our elderly to live with dignity. Afford the veterans the respect they deserve. Get rid of the bureaucrats and listen to the people who elected you. We are all tired of your self-indulgence, your vanity. Get to work and fix this damn country.

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