I had hoped not to have to touch on this issue. I had hoped it was a “southern redneck – my sister is my wife” blip due to the free access to media, regardless of illogical and irrational hate-speech. Apparently, I had underestimated, yet again, the stupidity and ignorance of the human race. Much to my amazement and deep disappointment, this is, actually, a “thing”.
Who, in their right or left mind, believes that a sexual predator is stopped by a stupid pictogram on a door? Can you see a Ted Bundy/Tommy Lynn Sells standing outside a bathroom, spotting the sign with a dress and stopping short:
“Gee, I can’t go in there…its for women only!!”
Or spending hours and lots of money amassing wigs, clothing, make-up so they could hide, lying in wait for a woman to use the facilities? Are there that many stupid people, on this planet, who would believe such a thing?
Transgender human beings don’t wake up one morning and say to themselves; “Gee, I think I’ll mash my junk into a pair of pantyhose today…just because…” Or, “Heck, I think I’ll lop off my hair and raid my brother’s underdrawers ’cause I feel like being a dude today.” This is not a “feeling”. This is a gender miscalculation on the part of nature. It is real.
Nature makes mistakes. Sometimes…they are little mistakes, like the platypus or a proboscis monkey but sometimes they are huge mistakes, like Donald Trump or Kanye West.
Gender neutral bathrooms are a no-brainer. I don’t care who is taking a leak beside me, as long as they wash their hands – I don’t care if they squat or stand. This is social progress. It is acknowledging that we are all the same, regardless of gender, nationality, race, creed or colour. Let’s face it – this is something we all do. We pee and we poop. We like to stand in front of a mirror and ensure that there are no pieces of food stuck to our teeth or visible boogers in our nostrils.
Your daughters and sons are in far more immediate danger in your schools, from the people they see every day than they are from a transgender individual trying to perform a normal bodily function. I don’t know about you but when I need to pee or poop, the last thing I am thinking about is peering at someone else doing the same thing.
It makes me wonder about the mindset of those who oppose gender neutral bathrooms. How depraved are you to even consider someone peeking at little kids doing their duties? What kind of mouldy thing is your brain?
Your kids, your wives, sisters and girlfriends are in far more danger walking down a street than they are going pee in a public bathroom. Take a look at my previous blog; watch the video.
Get your minds out of whatever gutter you have created and realize that your loved ones are in no danger from an individual with gender identification issues. Transgender people are not the monsters of Silence of the Lambs; they are someone’s loved one, with real, heart wrenching struggles.
With all that is going on in this world, with all the real dangers out there? A group of socially challenged idiots with some real potty issues grab headlines?
Who cares what pictogram is on a toilet? Go in, do your business while minding your business and wash your freaking hands. We are all in far more danger by those who use the can and don’t wash their hands than we are sharing a bathroom with someone who is transgendered…
Jesus in a handcart people!!!
Okay, first – vaccinations do not cause the “autisms”; that has been proven over and over again, but let’s journey into the land of stupidity, just for the hell of it.
So, some kids do develop life threatening reactions to vaccines. They are in the, very, small minority. These kids would probably be allergic to egg protein and penicillin as well and if allergies are an issue in a family – even slight allergies, a test for the vaccine is easily accomplished. We’ve done it.
See the almonds in the pic? They and their brethren in the tree nut family will kill me. Not “perhaps”, not “possibly”, not even “high probability” – they WILL kill me. I am profoundly allergic. This means that there are a number of substances that will, in a nanosecond, throw me into anaphylactic shock.
SO BAN ALL NUTS!
I’m not alone – there are others like me out there. So, because I am THAT allergic to a number of substances, does that mean that all these items need to be removed from store shelves, bulk bins and commercially manufactured foods? No. Almonds and tree nuts are healthy foods and help to maintain the well-being of the general populace.
Here’s an example of how bad the tree nut thing is; hubby and I went to a local Bulk Barn – it was the holidays and so there were lots of nut bins being opened and closed. The dust or whatever it is from those bins threw me into an asthma attack and a rather nasty allergic reaction. Did I have the right to demand that the bins be removed? That some kind of special and expensive air filtering equipment be installed on every bin? No. The responsibility is on me. Don’t go to Bulk Barn during the holidays. It places me at risk; it does not place my neighbour at risk or anyone else without allergies.
Vaccines can prevent horrendous childhood illnesses; illnesses that can kill. There are ways to test if a vaccine will cause a reaction; instead of using woo science – talk to a doctor. Ask, and if necessary, demand an allergy test. Don’t take the word of uneducated idiots like Jenny McCarthy or Jim Carrey, neither of whom have ANY education of note.
So, because a very, very small minority of children have reactions to a vaccine because Mom, Dad and doctor didn’t bother to check – all children, according to these anti-vaxx morons should be put at risk. It is the same line of thinking as would be banning all substances that can cause anaphylactic shock and even more ridiculous because people DIE from polio, from diphtheria, measles – men can be rendered sterile from the mumps.
Use your freakin’ heads – if there are allergies in the family, educate yourself, talk to your doctor and determine risk factors for your little snowflake. You don’t have the right to put someone with allergies to vaccines, to someone with a suppressed immune system at risk simply because you are too lazy to actually parent and educate yourself.
Montréal is a city with its fair share of self-entitled whiners. Chief among those would have to be cyclists. Not all but enough of them to make the news, either through protesting perceived injustice (!) or because one of them ended up on the wrong side of a vehicle.
Don’t get me wrong; I absolutely feel that cycling is a terrific form of transportation. Non-polluting, efficient and darn healthy. It is the cyclists I see very day that caused me to wish them flat tires and bike saddle sores. Contrary to what the cycling lobbyists want you to believe – “Cyclists are victimized and put-upon by motor vehicles and are safety conscious…just trying to share the roads, peacefully” – the vast majority and yes, the VAST majority are about as safety conscious as your average 2-year old.
Every single day, I share the road with half a dozen regular cyclist and out of that number? One wears a helmet and the, IMO, gross biking apparel. (Nobody needs to see your ass-sweat after a long day of work.) And he, on Sources Blvd. during the end of day traffic and rush – CONSISTENTLY ignores red lights and chooses to NOT use the designated bike path – instead, uses a car lane. Apparently, he is above the traffic/road laws. He wears bike gear so red lights and and green turn signals don’t apply to him. I once saw him almost get taken out by a car turning right, on a green, right turn, light because he was going straight but did not have the right to do so. He screamed at the driver…something about his kids and having the right to get home to them. Yeah..okay.
A few days ago, while driving to work – I was making a right turn on St. John Fisher Rd, onto Broadview, in Pointe-Claire, where I observed a young woman, on a bike, no helmet and earbuds. She was, I gather, trying to find that all-important-playlist and her hands were not on the handlebars. She swerved into the path of the car in front of me and right in front of the car behind her, of which, she was unaware. She saw and heard nothing. She was inches away from being a hood ornament.
I used to drive my bike to work; I worked shifts at the time. I obeyed the traffic laws. It didn’t impede my progress. I don’t cycle anymore and I am seeing exactly where the problems lie. Yes, there are inconsiderate vehicle operators but by and large, the greater offenders are cyclists. The police need to crack down on them. Ticket them for going through stops signs and red lights. Driving down the wrong side of the road or not using bike paths, putting themselves and drivers at risk.
Yesterday, saw a Mom driving down the wrong side of the street, while her daughter drove on the sidewalk. Daughter had a helmet – Mom didn’t. Then a few minutes later, a helmet clad Dad with similarly helmet clad kids drove right through a stop sign, across a fairly busy street.
Cyclists want equality on the roads – well, respect has to be earned and the majority don’t deserve it. How about licensing bikes? They are on the road and if injured, the SAAQ pays for that injury through licensing taxes of motor vehicles. Bike paths are similarly funded through tax dollars. Licensing would educate cyclists, something that is, sorely, required as cycling deaths increase. Road signs and traffic lights are for all – including cyclists. One would hope, common sense and an elemental knowledge of the laws of physics would be sufficient but according to accidents stats, that hope is misplaced.
I always give cyclists that extra care, out of respect for traffic code even if the cyclist, like that moron on Sources or the stupid young woman on Broadview, really don’t deserve any respect. By all means, if you can, use your bike but use it like a responsible individual. Teach your kids to ride but make sure, BEFORE, they head out that they know the rules of the road and obey them. Don’t be like that mother without a helmet, allowing her kid to drive on the sidewalk, toward traffic. Or that Dad that took his kids through the stop sign.
Bottom line – if you want respect and to share the road? Obey the laws and earn that respect.
In a discussion with a supervisor, years ago, I was told, “Karen, you expect too much from people. You will always be disappointed.” I was flummoxed or as a dear friend would put it “gob smacked.”
Expect too much? Is it really expecting too much for people to reach the next bar? To strive toward being a more thoughtful, ethical or moral individual? Is it expecting too much for people to educate themselves, to learn and grow?
Apparently so. He was right. I do expect too much and I am constantly disappointed, sometimes actually disgusted.
Personally, I was raised in an environment where you always did the best you could do – you might fail but you dusted yourself off and tried again. There was no shame in failure – there WAS/IS shame in not even giving it a go. This extended to all areas of life – from day to day tasks, to acquiring knowledge, to interaction within society. You always behaved morally, ethically and honestly. You didn’t steal, you didn’t lie. You did the job for which you were paid and you tried to raise your own bar. To work just a little harder, to contribute just a little more.
This doesn’t cut it anymore. Don’t do it. For every person who may think as do you, that personal bars are meant to be raised? There are 99 miserable souls looking to hitchhike a ride on your efforts. Or simply wallow in the dirt at your feet, biting at your ankles in an effort to drag you down to their level.
It appears that I have to re-adjust my morals and ethics. Striving toward the next bar has become dangerous to my health and state of mind. I have to remind myself not to expect anyone to live up to their words or step up to a plate, to do their best. I have to remind myself that mediocrity or worse, is the order of the day, in society and at work.
I will be returning to my job after a medical leave and I have to return with an entirely new attitude – something that is as foreign to me as walking naked down my street in mid-January. This is against my programming. It is against everything I was taught and have come to use in my life. I will return and simply follow my job description. I will not be involved in the sense of “team” that the corporation keeps touting as one of their corporate goals. Just P.R. There is no team in the corporate world. I was, at one time, friendly with most of my co-workers. Slowly, as their personalities began to show through; I was less friendly – still cordial etc. but there was a marked decrease in any sort of social interaction.
There will be none of that when I return. I will go in, I will do MY job to the best of my ability and if someone is unable to complete their assigned tasks…it will simply be too bad. I don’t want to “rise within the corporate structure” – the corporate structure makes me physically ill with all the backbiting and stepping over folks. I will not expend even a modicum of extra energy at work. I will save my energy for my home and my family, things that have taken a major hit.
Consider this a real warning to you; Don’t expect anything from people and you will not be disappointed. This is your life – let others rise or fall as they choose to do. In plain language? Fuck ’em.
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