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It Is Always About Perspective.

Heads up; it doesn’t matter who you are – it doesn’t matter if you’re an Atheist, a Christian, Hindi, Jewish, Muslim. It doesn’t matter where you live, what you believe. There is just so much to take away from this video. It is not simply about a survivor; Dr. Eger makes sure of that. This is one of the most important learning tools, you will ever be given. I know you’re all busy; looking to score that next big deal, perhaps looking for new employment, of dealing with yet another, disaster at work. Take a few minutes, I implore you.

You see, perception is our greatest tool for understanding, dealing and overcoming obstacles, regardless of how large they may seem at the time. Dr. Eger’s examples are extreme, of course but her methods, her tools of emotional/psychological survival and conquering whatever demons prevent us from growing, are universal. Unfortunately, this video seems to be available through Facebook only; I’ve created a shortlink which appears to work. You will get a pop-up asking if you wish to create an account; simply click on “Not Now” which appears at the bottom of that pop-up; you will then be able to watch the video.

This isn’t a con; it is not trying to sell you anything, nor compromise your information. I am simply sharing this because of its importance, because it IS a powerful learning tool, regardless of who you are, what you are or how you got there…I promise you, it is, very much, worth your time.  If you know me, in real life, then you know I am not a “sunny days and cotton candy clouds” individual.  I do ask that you take my word for this; incredible life lesson.

https://tinyurl.com/ybksnmbw

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American Friends

(Borrowed from a friend – with permission; expresses my thoughts perfectly.)


First, know this. You are my friend because I think you are wonderful.
There is a certain breed of woman I am drawn to in my friends and you are her.
They are intelligent because I have no patience for the stupid.
They are colourful because grey women bore me.
They are strong and almost all carry the scars of life on their souls because those make for the most interesting people.
They have and do make mistakes because they are so very human and I do so love a person with humanity.
But more than anything, they are kind and loving and compassionate because I am drawn to light, not darkness.

What they are not, are absolute Republicans or absolute Democrats. They are not necessarily “right” or “left”
Some voted for McCain, some for Obama. Some voted Independent. Some, as we all do, have their prejudices and bias. Some are Christian, some are other things, some are nothing on the spectrum of Spirituality.
Some love their guns and believe in their right to own a gun.
Some are right to lifers and some pro-choice.

Sometimes we disagree with our philosophies and policies but I have always respected their right to an opinion as they do mine.
Sometimes cross words have reached over the internet because we are passionate and strong in our beliefs but in the light of a new day we all recognize; this journey is more interesting with each other along for the ride.

I see what you are enduring right now.
I see the comments on your pages.
I see you getting kicked in the teeth by your own countrymen, your own government, sometimes even by your own family.
I see your helmets on, your battle shields raised, your sword lifted.
I know you and I know what this is doing to you, but you don’t stop, you don’t give up, you refuse to hide from it, and I admire you. So much.

Know this!!
You do not need to be friends with bigots and racists and homophobes.
There is no law in humanity which says you must be that tolerant. There is no rule which says you need to accept or listen to the opinions of all. They may have a right to say it but there are consequences and losing YOU is a terrible and just consequence.

Also remember this. Democracy; the countries we so enjoy. The nations where others flock to, dream of, wish to belong to do not just happen by accident or mistake.
Democracy is hard won, hard-earned and must be constantly fought for.
Carry on my wayward son. You are light.

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Elder Abuse; it is our problem

http://montrealgazette.com/pmn/news-pmn/police-investigate-elder-abuse-of-marvel-comics-stan-lee/wcm/65a2af2b-9582-4c1f-8929-bd0f8cb02387

Socio-economic status is, quite obviously, not protection from elder abuse.

Our social fabric is seeing the impact of the Baby Boomers on our economy, our healthcare and sadly, the incidents of the inexcusable abuse of these individuals, as they enter their “golden” years.

Society is judged by its treatment of its most vulnerable and as a society, we are failing.

There are so many facets to the problems of dealing with an aging population but there is one thing, that we can all offer, and it costs us nothing but grants so many rewards. Time.

Just time.

  1. Time as a gift to a family caregiver; allowing them to take a day, a night or if possible, a weekend away from the responsibility of caring for an elder relative.
  2. Time spent at the care facility, if the relative has been placed in such an environment.
  3. Time spent talking to doctors/nurses/aides in charge of the elder’s care.
  4. Time spent talking with the elder relative or friend; listening to their concerns.
  5. Time spent watching the interaction between staff and your relative/friend.
  6. Time spent by taking the relative/friend out for a walk, even if it just around a facility’s grounds.
  7. Time spent discussing medical care with doctors/nurses and aides, ensuring that our elder relative/friend understands their treatment and options.
  8. Time spent preparing a special meal or a morning coffee/tea to share.
  9. Time spent ensuring that all our relative/friend’s financial dealings are above board.
  10. Time spent to stave off loneliness, ensuring our relative or friend knows that he/she has not been forgotten.

Following the passing of my father; it became clear that living alone, in the family home was not in my mother’s best interest. Mom, my husband and myself decided that the best option was for her to move in with us. My husband and my sons constructed an in-law suite for her, complete with her own kitchenette, a separate bedroom and bath/laundry room. She would have her privacy and we would have ours. In all honesty, it also provided me with a way to ensure she was taking her medications/eating properly.

This was a huge adjustment for all of us but, I will never regret the decision. I was able to be there for my mother, as she was for me and believe me..I was not the easiest child with whom to deal. My memories of the 3 years Mom lived with us, are wonderful, coming home from work and seeing her. Sharing our ups and downs; trying to help her with the monumental grief of losing my Dad, they had been married for 60 years when he passed away.

Caring for an elder relative/friend, allowing them to feel needed, loved doesn’t take much. Just some of your time. It really is such a small thing but means so much. Time can help to prevent abuse, depression and loneliness. Time will create memories that we can hold in our hearts, long after we have to say good-bye to our loved one. Time costs us nothing to give but the pay back in priceless.

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Canada Revenue Agency – They DON’T make housecalls.

http://www.antifraudcentre-centreantifraude.ca/reportincident-signalerincident/index-eng.htm

(Examples of fraudulent communications – text and e-mails)

The Canada Revenue Agency or the provincial revenue agencies, DO NOT show up at your house. They simply DO NOT. These are scammers. They are not government agencies; they are dirtbags in call centers, looking to relieve you of your cash. Let me repeat; the CRA DOES NOT SHOW UP AT YOUR HOME. If someone making this claim does come to your home, call the police immediately. Note their physical description, the vehicle they are driving, and if safe to do so, the license plate #.

Although it may seem obvious to most of us; they don’t as for cash/gift cards as payment.

The procedures are nationwide and do not deviate; if you really own the government money, they will contact you via regular old snail mail. You’ll be provided with a file number and a contact name/number. If you call, they will ask you specific information regarding your identity. To be completely sure that this is the government, use the phone numbers found on the actual government web site or in the telephone book.

Please talk to neighbours who may be vulnerable – elderly neighbours, recent immigrants and refugees. Encourage them to report the scams.

When you back trace the numbers and ask the providers – Rogers seems to be a popular one; they are notable unresponsive. Go to the RCMP Fraud site and register a formal complaint.

http://www.antifraudcentre-centreantifraude.ca/reportincident-signalerincident/index-eng.htm

 

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Stop Listening to Rhetoric or How to Not Be a Victim

Stop. Just stop listening to feminist and gay rhetoric regarding our right to safely walk at night, enjoy a night out. It is garbage. It is dangerous garbage. Telling little boys to treat women and members of the gay community with respect, is not going to change a thing.  There are predators out there and a picket sign, a Slut Walk, is not going to alter this simple fact.

We may believe we have the right to safety, but predators take full advantage of that belief. How many times do you see people out, alone, for an evening walk, a run, wearing ear buds? Unable to hear if anyone is behind them; looking ahead, unaware if someone is hiding in the vicinity, unaware that a vehicle is following them.

Take a look at these guys, a good look; none of them “look like” monsters but they are among the worst of the worst.

Abduction, torture, rape, mutilation and murder.

This applies to boys and men as well; be aware of your surroundings. Never leave an area without sending a message to someone. Make sure your locating apps are running on your cell.

The photos, below, are of predators who preyed on boys and men; Gacy, Dahmer, MacArthur, Magnotta.

Torture, rape and murder are not a gender issue.

They all look like the folks in our neighbourhood.

Psychopaths do not look different, they don’t “act” differently, they are, virtually, unidentifiable from you or me.

Sometimes, two psychopaths meet and the result is devastating for all of us, as in the above – Bernardo and Homolka (aka Teal) and the Wests.

There is no 100% protection from these monsters but there are ways to lessen their opportunities;

  1. Never leave your food or drink unattended. NEVER. If you get up to go to the washroom, to dance, to grab a smoke outside, take your drink or order a fresh one, on your return.
  2. If you are walking the dog, running or on your way to the store – do not wear ear buds. Be aware of your surroundings, 360 deg. Aware.
  3. Always note vehicles in your vicinity. If you get a tingle in your Spidey sense? Cross the street, walk in the opposite direction; go into local business, call someone. Get out of the area, quickly.
  4. When you get in your car, lock the doors, IMMEDIATELY. Don’t open your damn window if someone taps on it. Never get out of your car, at the request of a stranger. No, you didn’t drop $20 bucks. If your tire is flat? Use your cell phone, from inside your car, to call someone. Another ruse is to tell you that your car is leaking a fluid; great – turn your car on and drive to the nearest service station to have it verified.
  5. Don’t let strangers in your house; for any reason. If the cable, gas or power company has an issue? Make sure your door is locked and call the company. Do not allow “city employees” in your home. Make sure your door is locked and call the city. If you are alone, tell whoever is at your door, from behind your locked door, to come back. Ensure someone else is in your home for the next visit.
  6. Someone lose a pet or child? Call the police in the case of a child and animal control, in the case of a pet and get away from that individual.
  7. Tell your kids; adults DO NOT ask children for direction or for help.  They just don’t.  Tell them to run to the nearest house and ask for assistance.

Bottomline; always be aware of danger. Always be aware of your surroundings. Never allow yourself to be alone with someone you do not know or do not know well. Note vehicles in your area.

Carry a weapon, one that is easily accessible. My favourite is pepper spray. It is illegal. I don’t care. That pepper spray, probably, saved me from rape or worse, one night. Ask yourself, if someone attempts to assault you? What are the odds that they will go to the police to press charges?

Anecdote: I was walking home, a very residential neighbourhood, the whole white picket fence thing, from a local, neighbourhood pub. It was late, I was alone and I had high heels – those shoes make you easy pickings, by the way, running is not an option. I was not wearing earbuds, or earphones. I heard a vehicle behind me; it had stopped. I heard a door open and the next thing I knew I was being grabbed from behind.

I always keep my pepper spray, in my hand, when I’m out and alone. Always. The law be damned. If I am charged, then that means, I avoided an assault or worse. I’ll take the charges, thanks.

I managed to spray the guy. He dropped like a stone, I took my shoes off and ran like the devil.

Want a peek into the minds of psychos? He had a partner, in the vehicle; the partner yelled as I was running away, “What did the bitch do?”

So, I was to be assaulted, protected myself and I’m the bitch.

I got away. I was lucky, and I was aware of my surroundings.

Don’t be a victim. Be aware. Trust no one. This is your life, you are protecting.

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What a stupid, stupid thing to write

I used to follow this blog, until this sickening piece; there is no coming back from this kind of ignorance.

https://clarissasblog.com/2018/06/05/suicides/#comment-320658

How thick do you have to be to make such horrendous suppositions and just downright ignorant comments? Kate Spade didn’t suffer from depression? Really? Had access to her medical file, did you? Knew her on a personal level perhaps? No? Ah, so another armchair physician.

Apparently, Mrs. Spade did, in fact, suffer from depression and had been suffering for years but why let facts get in the way of a great superiority rant, right?

https://www.reuters.com/article/us-people-kate-spade/designer-kate-spade-suffered-depression-for-years-husband-says-idUSKCN1J2304

The opinions expressed in “Clarissa’s Blog” are, unfortunately, all too prevalent. People with healthy psyches do not commit suicide. Depression is an illness. Severe depression is an illness that ruins and takes lives. It is this “holier than thou” attitude that has created the mental illness crisis facing our nations. There is little to no funding, little to no support and people are dying.

But don’t let facts get in the way of an opinion.

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DO NOT BUY SAMSUNG

Had a Samsung phone – lasted about a year before it started to act up; not abused, not overuse – just standard keeping in touch with the hubby and kids. No one borrowed it and I didn’t drop it in water/on concrete or any other “abuse”. Okay, sucked it up – these things happen.

Bought a BluRay – Samsung; it lasted less than a year before it stopped ejecting DVD’s and starting acting up. Okay, not happy but again…s*it happens. Tossed it and bought an LG (works fab, by the way).

Now…I don’t know if I have to be hit by a brick before a lesson is learned or if I fell under the spell of “sparkly-shiney new”; we bought, at quite a price tag, by the way – a top loading washer/dryer combo.

Noticed clothes weren’t being cleaned properly; assigned it to a learning curve for the machine, it is HE. Went back and re-read the instructions (yes…I am one of THOSE people and do read instructions); I was doing everything according to the book. Then a recall was announced; the machine was…essentially, blowing up when the Heavy Duty setting was used. Awesome. Samsung was offering in-home service or a ridiculously low rebate on another Samsung washer. I chose the in-home service; at this point, there was NO way I was going to buy another Samsung washing machine, paltry rebate or not.

Well, roll the clock ahead a couple of years; things haven’t changed. Fortunately, we do have a second washer/dryer combo and this one does work, although it is only a fraction of the load capacity. In case anyone feels that I am exaggerating – I welcome you to Google “Samsung appliance complaints”. There are thousands. Even their own Facebook page is inundated with angry customers – spread this far and wide; DO NOT BUY SAMSUNG PRODUCTS. For some reason, their quality has plummeted and their regard for their customers is non-existent.

Here is some evidence and if you need more…I have laundry baskets FULL of evidence.

This picture is of a Shark floor pad, after I washed it in the Samsung – on Heavy Duty. AFTER, I washed it. The dirt is simply that – dirt. Backyard mud. That’s it – no grease, no blood, no fruit juice, coffee or alcohol – just backyard mud. It is the same thing, over and over again. This is a piece of garbage. A very expensive piece of garbage. DO NOT BUY SAMSUNG APPLIANCES!!! Or electronics…check out the plethora of complaints on those as well.

This is the piece of crap, responsible:

And this is the piece of crap’s model number:

For your reference – only 3 examples – feel free to surf, on your own.  Samsung should be avoided, at all costs and believe me…if you decide on Samsung…it will cost you.

  1.  http://www.penciltrick.com/index.php/technologycomputer/samsung-canada/comment-page-3/#comment-1531481
  2. https://www.facebook.com/SamsungHomeAppliances/?hc_ref=ARSzBuXjb6SBvCSSCOnn3H3ReEMAiwFu-87f5WTG7NJ-73NGqDBLC-8CImqXcZPA1jo&fref=nf
  3. https://www.cnet.com/forums/discussions/samsung-complaint-362171/

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We All Need a Good Dose of “Grow The F… Up”

Every so often, the nonsense, caterwauling, whining and general toddler behaviour, on the most incredible educational opportunity – the internet, drives me to despair. Sometimes, it gets bad enough, that I suspend my FB account, disregard Twitter and withdraw from social media.

When I feel like my world is turning into a melting pot of inanity, I tune out. It is at that point. When I look around, beyond freaking Facebook and Twitter, I see real tragedy. I see real obstacles and challenges – then I go to check in with FB….and I’m inundated with narcissistic First World bullshit.

I can only imagine how disgusted our ancestors must be.

Yeah, life’s a bitch but it is relative to where you live, isn’t it? The concept of actually being grateful for everything around us, in the privileged Western World is, apparently, too difficult, for the vast majority, to ponder. It seems to be almost painful, this thinking process thing.

Feelings have become more important than deeds. Everyone’s feelings are hurt. What are we? A society of 2-year-olds? Look, not everyone is going to like you. Not everyone gives a rat’s ass about your feelings, in fact, I would hazard a guess and say that 99.99999% of this world doesn’t care how you feel, a good lot of them are too busy trying to find food and water…avoid being blown up or getting shot but hey, your feelings are hurt. Let’s see…can I find a tear for you? Nope…sorry. Nothing.

Put your f*cking cell phone down – the world does not need or even want another “Selfie” or pic of your dinner choice. Go to a news site, in another country and see what they face, daily. Stay away from FOX, CNN; BBC is a pretty easy beginning, move on to Al-Jazeera, try an Israeli site – African and Indian news sites. Get yourself some perspective. How many “Likes” or online “Friends” you garner isn’t worth a damn.

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It called “Propaganda”

The actual word for “fake news” is propaganda. I have no doubt that Trump used the “fake news” term because:

a) he probably can’t pronounce “propaganda”

b) he couldn’t spell the word

c) he has no idea what it means

The problem is real and it isn’t the domain of the right, it isn’t the domain of the left; it is a tool used, to great effect, on the intellectually lazy. The people who want their information fed to them, without having to research to any degree.

It is also dangerous. There is, also, no excuse for perpetuating propaganda.

In this world of instant connect, sourcing truth isn’t neurosurgery. When a story is posted, citations should always be available. Hearsay, rumour and tall tales are, easily, debunked. Most citizens of the West are, now, almost surgically attached to their mobile devices. When a situation or an event occurs that is worthy of being shared; it is nothing to take a photo. To record the event as it occurs. If you have no hard evidence that something untoward, something out of the ordinary has occurred, don’t repeat it and claim it as truth. Truth requires evidence or rather should always require evidence, otherwise? It is simply rumour. It is only hearsay and not worthy to be repeated, particularly online.

This is of the upmost importance right now. Accusations of all sorts are flying fast and furious on Facebook, on Snapchat and Twitter. It is time to demand proof. There is no excuse for accusations without proof in this day in age. Were you treated unfairly? Record it, take a pic, take names. Were you the victim of some sort of ill-treatment? Take notes. Don’t just post “Well, this happened to me…yada, yada and another yada.” This kind of claim isn’t worth the time it takes to type or worse, to read.

When a group, political, religious, social or workplace condones the use of rumour, gossip or uncited events; the group loses credibility, particularly if the media gets hold of it and can show the claim as unsubstantiated rumour.

In a perfect world, nothing should be reported without proof, without solid evidence and that applies to Facebook, Twitter and the online world, in general. If you can’t back your shit up, with evidence? Keep it to yourself. I know it is a very high and treacherous mountain to climb, particularly when a pseudo-world leader seems to feel the need to post any and all bullshit that crosses his feed or flickers on his television screen, but we have that responsibility. If we really believe in freedom of speech, then we must take that responsibility seriously. Freedom of speech doesn’t mean freedom to lie, to distort. You can, but it sends a subliminal message; the message is that you are not worthy of the honour of being heard.

If a cause is just, if a cause is truthful, then it doesn’t require lying or exaggeration. It doesn’t require propaganda. Beware the savage jaw…of 1984.

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Michael Vick Wants Forgiveness. Really?

michael vickWell, I am all about forgiveness, but that forgiveness must come from the individual who has been harmed. Let’s ask his victims if they forgive him; shall we start with the puppy he threw in the pool and then electrocuted. A good number of his helpless, vulnerable victims are dead. Too bad, so sad. Live with it, dirtbag.

http://www.sportingnews.com/nfl/news/michael-vick-petition-falcons-controversy-forgiveness-dogfighting-ring-prison/wvucfzzmg6ny1v61kz20pce96

@JasonFoster – think about this, buddy, before you abuse your access to the public via media.

It was a sweltering day in September of 2007, and Reynolds was in Virginia to evaluate the 49 pit bulls found alive on Vicks’ property. A federal agent who had been at the scene when the property was searched was driving her to the various facilities holding the dogs, and they got to talking about what the investigation had turned up.

“The details that got to me then and stay with me today involve the swimming pool that was used to kill some of the dogs,” Reynolds wrote on her blog. “Jumper cables were clipped onto the ears of underperforming dogs, then, just like with a car, the cables were connected to the terminals of car batteries before lifting and tossing the shamed dogs into the water.” 

She continued, “We don’t know how many suffered this premeditated murder, but the damage to the pool walls tells a story. It seems that while they were scrambling to escape, they scratched and clawed at the pool liner and bit at the dented aluminum sides like a hungry dog on a tin can. 

“I wear some pretty thick skin during our work with dogs, but I can’t shake my minds-eye image of a little black dog splashing frantically in bloody water … screaming in pain and terror … brown eyes saucer wide and tiny black white-toed feet clawing at anything, desperate to get a hold. This death did not come quickly. The rescuer in me keeps trying to think of a way to go back in time and somehow stop this torture and pull the little dog to safety. I think I’ll be looking for ways to pull that dog out for the rest of my life.” 

Vick did all that and more to his dogs, and even threw family pets into the pit with fighters and laughed while they were mauled, according to a witness who testified to federal investigators. 

That’s what sends dog lovers out to football games with protest signs: knowing that Michael Vick tortured and killed innocent dogs. That he has never paid for that abuse or even apologized for it. 

>Because the nation’s most notorious dogfighter pled “not guilty” to animal cruelty charges — charges that were eventually dropped in a plea bargain — and he was convicted only of bankrolling a dogfighting conspiracy, for which he served 18 months in prison before being welcomed back to the public spotlight. “


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